A lot of you have asked how I was able to move on from a toxic relationship that I was in for 4 years (off and on). So I decided to write a blog post on it. I hope this helps someone out there! It was a very difficult relationship to leave. I know that it was a trauma bond. If you are unsure of what this is, please read about that here. This caused me to stay longer than I should have. I was ready to let this relationship go so that I could free up space to bring in a healthy relationship that I know I deserved. I went full force with inner healing and was in a better mental head space than I felt I have been in, in a long time.
A friend and I went up to Sedona to the 7 pools to do this little ritual to release our partners energies that we have been wanting to let go of, but couldn’t. It was such a beautiful moment. It was so liberating and exhilarating to do something like that, knowing I was no longer going to deal with the breadcrumbs that my partner was giving me to keep me around. I was not upset with my partner. I was upset with myself for allowing myself to be mistreated. Emotionally. The relationship was the best thing that happened to me. It caused me to wake up and realize that I needed to do some major inner healing! So I am super grateful for it and all that I have learned.
If you feel you are ready to release someone you love because the relationship is no longer serving you, it’s important to approach the situation with kindness and compassion. You don’t have to go to Sedona. You can do this anywhere that is peaceful. It could be out in nature or in your home with some calming music playing and candles burning. Just find a place where you can focus and relax and be willing to be vulnerable. This can be a very traumatic feeling to cut ties with someone. So please be patient and kind with yourself.
I put on some meditation music and I did a Kundalini Yoga meditation on Releasing Sexual Partners you can read about how to do that here. This cleansed my body of all my past partners energies and any energies I have taken on from their previous partners.
After I was finished with that ritual, I began my 2nd ritual. I sat with my legs criss crossed and my spine straight with my hands on my knees and my palms facing up towards the sky. With meditation music still playing in the background and my eyes closed — I released him, with my words, back to the Universe. You can view the reel on my Instagram here. You can use the words that I have used or you can choose to use your own. Whichever you feel is best to move forward.
Here is what I lovingly said:
“I want to start by saying how much I appreciate you and the time we’ve spent together.
However, I’ve come to a realization that our relationship is no longer serving either of us in the way it used to.
I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting and soul-searching, and I believe it’s time for us to let go and move on from each other.
I’m grateful for the memories we’ve made, and the lessons I have learned, but it’s best for us to part ways and focus on our individual paths.
I release you, back to the Universe!
I recall my power and my energy back to me in its entirety.
I am detaching from the outcome.
I am releasing all negative energy and any energy that I have taken on from you and your previous relationships.
Please know that this decision doesn’t diminish the love and respect I have for you.
I’ll always cherish the moments we shared, and I hope we can both find happiness and fulfillment in the future.
With love and peace.
I then imagined cutting cords with my partner and all the partners before him that I ever had.
Cutting cords with someone can be a spiritual practice that helps you release any negative energy or emotional attachments to that person. Here is a general process you can follow:
- Find a quiet and comfortable space where you won’t be disturbed.
- Close your eyes, take some deep breaths, and center yourself in the present moment.
- Visualize the person you want to cut cords with. See them in front of you, and imagine a cord of energy connecting the two of you.
- Take a moment to reflect on the emotions and energy that this person brings up for you. Notice any negative emotions, thoughts, or patterns that are associated with them.
- With intention, visualize a pair of golden scissors or a shining sword, and imagine yourself cutting the cord that connects you to this person.
- As you do this, say a mantra or affirmation that affirms your intention to release this person from your life. For example, you could say something like “I release you with love and gratitude, and I allow only positive and supportive relationships into my life.”
- Take some deep breaths, and imagine a beautiful healing light filling the space where the cord used to be. See yourself surrounded by love and positivity.
- When you feel ready, slowly open your eyes and return to the present moment.
Remember that cutting cords is a personal and spiritual practice, and you can adjust this process to suit your needs and beliefs. It’s also important to be gentle with yourself and allow yourself time to process any emotions that come up as you release this person from your life.
It takes time to let go. Don’t expect this to happen overnight. But it sure feels freeing once you decide that enough is enough. I continued to listen to a mantra on Letting Go while I slept at night to continue to stay strong. This really saved me in so many ways. I hope it does the same for you!
Let me know how you did in the comments below. I would love to hear!
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